Wow! It has been a long and winding road.  Can it really be ten years since I took that step into the dark abyss of betrayal?  It was about this time, November 23, 2015 to be exact, that I learned my husband was cheating on me. I decided to leave him the next day. It is true what they say, “The hell you know must be more painful than the one you don’t know” in order to have the courage to leave it behind.  That was very true for me.  I did not know what would happen to me.  All I knew is that anything had to be better than this… 

My Last Relationship Taught Me A Lot… It taught me not to ignore the signs or my own gut feelings. I learned how to love myself and not put anyone above my happiness or my dreams. Now I know my worth, I know what I want and need. To be sure, I won't settle for less again. I have no regrets, I needed to learn those lessons, however painful they were to learn. Let me be clear, my Ex doesn’t get to take any of the credit for my hard fought emotional work, or my metamorphosis! I did ...

Please Note: I first saw this posted in one of my groups on Facebook. I didn’t write it. But I feel like it needed to be shared. The author is Tim Lawrence. He had a blog for the longest time called “The Adversity Within”. This post is something I have felt for a long time, but I have been clumsy in knowing how to address these words that kill the soul: “Everything Happens for a Reason” I’ve heard religious leaders say it. I’ve had friends and family ...

From my Social Media Post leading up to the launch of my company: Six Days Until Launch: I decided to talk a little bit about my journey to recovery from betrayal trauma each day leading up to my launch. I want everyone to know this wasn’t something I just “decided to do” on a whim. There are some things in life that seem to be predestined or fated somehow. I never will believe my ex-husband was fated to cheat on me. I believe he absolutely wasn’t and shouldn’t ...

I am telling you my story, not to gain sympathy, although I recognize it may do that.  I know this because anytime I tell my story it is met with a variety of reactions of shock and horror.  I am also not comparing my story to your story. Mine isn’t worse or better, it’s just my story. Trauma is trauma no matter how one experiences it.  One trauma isn’t easier or harder than another.  So this isn’t about comparison.  One reason to tell you my ...

A family member recently told my daughter she wasn’t being forgiving enough of her Father. In the famous words of Indigo Montoya, “I don’t think that word means what you think it means.” This idea that we just have to forgive someone even when they are still in the throws of sinning against us, is a very common misconception and reveals that the person who is saying it has a lack of basic doctrinal understanding about when, where, how and why we forgive someone who has wronged us through adultery and infidelity.

I am about as "Main Street" as they come. An "All American Girl" with a dream to marry the right man, in the right place at the right time and raise a family. All I wanted my whole life was a white picket fence, a home, a husband, a family and my own "happily ever after." For the most part, I lived my dream, but what I didn't know is that the dream would turn into a nightmare that would nearly destroy me. But it didn't. I am sharing my story on the off chance it helps another Sister who is in ...